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This is part 2 in my series on self-sabotage in the weight loss process.  You can find part one HERE.  Part 2 picks up with the 3rd most common reason I see people sabotaging their weight loss effort.  Enjoy.

3.    You Don’t Believe You Deserve It

It’s also possible that you continue to sabotage your own success, because at some deeper level you still don’t believe that you really deserve the body and happiness you desire.  In a strange way, carrying the extra weight may be much more inside your comfort zone than being thin. As unhappy as you may be, you already know what to expect in life- things are familiar and predictable.

If this sounds familiar, then what I want you to understand first and foremost is that these are beliefs you either learned from others or created for yourself- nothing more.

You don’t have to carry them any further with you ‘in your suitcase’ than you already have.  Sure, changing these beliefs requires some deep reflection and earnest effort, but any negative belief you may have about yourself, your body or your worthiness as a person can be changed.

The solution?  As you bump into these old beliefs start reflecting on where they came from.  Who encouraged you to think and feel this way about yourself?

• Your family?
• Friends?
• An old boyfriend?
• Or maybe you just created it all by yourself.

Regardless, the first step is recognizing these old limiting beliefs and being willing to ‘exchange them’ for new beliefs that help you get where you want to be rather than blocking the way.

The truth is this:

You deserve all the health, happiness, positive relationships and fit, sexy body you desire.  You need to own that truth.  You need to fully believe this yourself and get out of your own way.

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A very common question I get asked by people looking to lose weight is:

“How can I stop my self-sabotage?”

They typically have a lot of frustration with themselves for not following through with their weight loss plan and they often feel hopeless that their situation will never change.

So if you feel like you keep sabotaging yourself for one reason or another, then what can you do to get un-stuck and on track? The first thing you want to do is identify why you keep doing this.

If you don’t have a clear idea, then it’s hard to come up with the right solution.

In order to understand your self-sabotage pattern, I’m going to ask you what might seem like a strange question (if you ask the people I hang out with, they’d tell you that I have a tendency to do this- but bear with me, please, because there’s a method to my madness). If you take a few moments to sit with this and really understand the question, you will find that it’s very powerful and it can actually help you in many areas of your life .

What has to be true in your life in order for you to sabotage your weight loss efforts?

Read that a second time if you have to. It’s actually a basic logic equation.

In order for a behavior like self-sabotage to be true in your life (and if you’ve read this far, then I’m assuming it is), then what belief MUST you be carrying that allows that self-sabotaging behavior to exist?

If you sabotage yourself, then something else MUST be true in your life that allows that to happen.

I assure you this is not as complex as it sounds, and I really encourage you to take a moment to digest it. If you understand what that thing is, you will understand your self-sabotage, and you can then start taking the steps to reverse it.

Now let’s take it further. Below are the 4 most common patterns I have observed (the things that MUST be true in people’s lives) that allow the self-sabotage to exist.  Please read through them and see what most resonates.  If you come up with something I didn’t quite address, please reach out to me and let me know: joshua@joshuawayne.com.

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