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I’m just throwing this idea out there.  It’s part of a longer post I’m working on that will be coming soon.

Consider this: the real reason you’re not losing weight is because it isn’t your priority yet.  You can think about it all you want.  You want read all the books you want, join all the online forums you want, but at the end of the day, the only reason you aren’t living comfortably and happily at your ideal weight is because it is not your priority.

You don’t lose weight because the chocolate mousse that was served at your sister’s dinner party over the weekend was more important to you than losing weight.

Eating the great pizza, chips, dips and Margaritas your neighbors served while you were watching the World Series together was more important than to you than losing weight.

You don’t lose the weight because nibbling on all the cookies and candy in the office kitchen is more important to you than losing the weight.

This is a matter of priorities.  It’s about DECIDING that to carry this extra weight is no longer an option in your life.  (The suffix of the word decide – CIDE – means to kill off.  Think suicide, homicide, etc.)  When you truly decide, you are deciding that carrying the extra weight is no longer tolerable.  It’s no longer an option.  That’s when your priorities shift.

But until that happens, be very honest with yourself about where your priorities lie.  Our actions always have more meaning that our thoughts, words and intentions.  It’s important to be grounded in the reality of our choices.  That may not always be pleasant, but until we really fess up to our priorities, there is little we can do to change them.

Like I said, this is part of a longer article I’m working on, just not there with it yet.  I’d like to be posting here more, but unfortunately, as much as I would like this to be one of my priorities, clearly it isn’t.  My actions always speak louder than my words or intentions.

Early this year, Jackie Wicks (the co-founder of PEERtrainer.com) and I created a 12 week coaching program called “The Point of No Return”. We did it live with an initial group, and recorded everything so we could share it with others.  We shared some really innovative ideas about losing weight (and ending emotional eating).  The results were excellent.

The title came from an observation we had of people who really get over the hump in their effort to lose weight.  Obviously it often takes some time to get there, but we see people finally get to a place where the struggle with food- and as a result, of course, their weight- is not so constant and not so diffcult.

We call it “The Point of No Return” because once you get there, there’s really no going back.  This is a crucial part of the concept.  You fundamentally change your relationship to food and yourself, and you don’t go back to old habits.  You may slip up here and there, but you get yourself back on track much sooner than later.

It’s actually a place that anybody can get to, and we built our 12 week program as a “roadmap” if you will to get there.  When you get to “The Point Of No Return”:

• You know exactly what to do to lose weight, and there is no struggle anymore to do it.
• You can comfortably live at your ideal weight without the constant anxiety of falling off track and starting over again at square one.
• You can gain a bit of weight because of the holidays or a vacation, but know you can get back to your ideal weight without any sense of helplessness or fear.
• Your relationship to food and exercise is relaxed and comfortable rather than an ongoing struggle or chore.
• You enjoy food, but don’t obsess about it.
• You enjoy a happy, balanced life where you’re in control of your emotions and food choices rather than them being in control of you.

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