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Who are You Becoming?

Think about this question for a second.  It’s possibly one of the most powerful questions you’ll even consider- and as you’ll see in part 2 of the post tomorrow, it has a lot to do with your success in losing the weight you want- and keeping it off.

Really asking this question deeply, and reflecting on it causes you to consider what you really want in life because here is a fact:

You are becoming something.  You can’t help this.  It’s a fact.

The past is gone…and all we have is the unfolding of present moments.  So this is a very good place to put your attention.

The decisions you make right now directly shape:

• How you think…
• What habits you oblige…
• What food choices you make…
• How you relate to yourself, your body and others…
• How you handle stress…
• How you react to and talk to your children…

All these decisions shape who you are becoming.  These choices create the causes and conditions for what happens next.

So the question becomes:

Since you’re becoming something (the energy and thinking and behavior that is you is unfolding into something), will you become that thing by design or by default?

I know that comes off pretty wordy, but I recommend you read it again so it sinks in.

Put another way, will you become that thing by habit or by choice?

You have a choice right now, on a moment-to-moment basis about what the quality of your life is going to be.

So you want to be asking yourself: “How well am I making that choice?”

Because the quality of that choice defines who you are becoming.

In part 2 of this post, I’m going to unpack this by going into some specific examples of how this fits into our lives, and how it also affects our waistline.

Early this year, Jackie Wicks (the co-founder of PEERtrainer.com) and I created a 12 week coaching program called “The Point of No Return”. We did it live with an initial group, and recorded everything so we could share it with others.  We shared some really innovative ideas about losing weight (and ending emotional eating).  The results were excellent.

The title came from an observation we had of people who really get over the hump in their effort to lose weight.  Obviously it often takes some time to get there, but we see people finally get to a place where the struggle with food- and as a result, of course, their weight- is not so constant and not so diffcult.

We call it “The Point of No Return” because once you get there, there’s really no going back.  This is a crucial part of the concept.  You fundamentally change your relationship to food and yourself, and you don’t go back to old habits.  You may slip up here and there, but you get yourself back on track much sooner than later.

It’s actually a place that anybody can get to, and we built our 12 week program as a “roadmap” if you will to get there.  When you get to “The Point Of No Return”:

• You know exactly what to do to lose weight, and there is no struggle anymore to do it.
• You can comfortably live at your ideal weight without the constant anxiety of falling off track and starting over again at square one.
• You can gain a bit of weight because of the holidays or a vacation, but know you can get back to your ideal weight without any sense of helplessness or fear.
• Your relationship to food and exercise is relaxed and comfortable rather than an ongoing struggle or chore.
• You enjoy food, but don’t obsess about it.
• You enjoy a happy, balanced life where you’re in control of your emotions and food choices rather than them being in control of you.

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